by “It’s better to have money and not to need it, than to need it and not to have it. And there’s a good place in this world for money, yes sirree, and I know what it is. It’s right here in my pocket.” – Daddy Rich (Car Wash)
I don’t ask for much. But I want you to do something for me.
In actual fact it’s doing something for you.
I want you to stop giving money to women.
Most especially, to those you are not in an actual “in real life” relationship with.
If she is receiving funds from you in return for fap material, custom videos, showing her naughty bits or even just “companionship” (barf)… STOP IT.
She does not give a flying F about you, it’s never, ever going to “lead to anything” and you are just a component of her online business.
A lazy business, come to that, that doesn’t really give any real value. It’s not providing the things that really benefit your life in any way.
And you aren’t ever going to meet her or start something with her. You are a client to her, nothing more.
Now, money is important in the game – but not in the way most men think it is…
If you are using your money to
a) try to impress her
b) trying to transact with her, in terms of sexual favours
c) to purchase any sort of accessibility – dates, attention or time
d) pay to watch her pleasure herself (not even you! imagine that!)
You are going to get RINSED. Not loved.
There is now an entire industry dedicated to this and the rabbit hole goes deeper than you can even imagine.
The world’s oldest profession just got a 21st century facelift, thanks to the World Wide Web.
Note, I don’t have any judgement of sex workers. But I do think you are selling yourself way short if you throw away your money on people that don’t care about you.
Of all the above, escorting is to me the least problematic. Guys who see escorts actually get something for their money – and in terms of having a happy ending without any commitment, and time management, it has its benefits. There are a lot of guys who are simply too busy for a relationship and disinterested in dates where they have to take an evening out to entertain a girl with no real certainty of a happy ending.
But you have to remember this:
In all the time you spent dealing with this, you could have been doing pushups, or working on your business, or doing any one of a number of things that move you forward and increase your value.
And the guy who has enough value gets the girl for free as a bonus. If he has better things to do than her, she will start chasing!
What makes you think you even have time for all this dicking around? Are you 100% where you want to be in life?
If not, you need to be moving forwards. As Henry Ford said “It has been my observation that those who get ahead, do so while others are going sideways.”
If a woman is actually already giving you what you want in life, sure, reward her. Why not. But if you are doing things for her and buying things for her as a way to try to impress her, it won’t.
The “provider” guy thinks he is winning with his “I got you Queen” antics. But she sees him as a servant, not as a King. She doesn’t worship you back, she just gets accustomed to it.
The amount of “beta behavior” these days, especially as regards money, is off the charts. It’s become an entire industry, with millions of women building highly successful “careers” (if you can call it that, but it sure is profitable) rinsing cash from pathetic, thirsty, needy men.
They have gotten this down to an art and a science.
The cure is simple. STOP IT.
If she can’t pay her phone bill, as a capable, grown adult – is that your fault or your problem?
Stop enabling this type of behavior. The trouble is, it becomes a vicious cycle. She has a bunch of enablers and especially if she is hot, she only has to make big eyes at them like the poor angel with a broken wing, and they all come to the rescue. Thinking they are going to “be the one”. Oh she will thank them and tell them they are amazing and do the bare minimum it takes to keep the money flowing.
But that doesn’t mean she even likes you. You are being played. And the moment the money stops flowing, her attention goes somewhere else.
Do This instead:
MONEY – as I was saying, is important in the game. I explained how you shouldn’t use it. Now on to how you SHOULD use it…
a) to create opportunities for YOU to have fun.
b) to get debt free.
c) to improve your health, your financial future, your home, your business, your wardrobe
d) to buy the things YOU want – things that YOU find useful, beautiful, enjoyable or otherwise beneficial to YOU.
e) to care for your actual family, true friends and others who have EARNED it.
f) to improve your logistics and other aspects that increase your dating opportunities
You NEED all your money for those things and you need all your time! You don’t have time, money or energy to be bailing some random chick out who doesn’t actually care about you at all and is just using you.
Stop it.
