by We need to go over this, because most people have it completely and utterly wrong.
Game is one of the ESSENTIALS that a man needs in order to understand, attract, intrigue women – and to create an experience that they both can enjoy.
Game is NOT a way to manipulate, deceive women or somehow trick them into bed.
Game is the difference between “a guy who gets it” and a guy who doesn’t.
FOR EXAMPLE
one of the vital characteristics of game is recognizing a woman’s signals for what they are and acting appropriately. This is a skill that most men do not have and which women WISH all men had!!!
Women’s communication style is different to that of men. First – this happened for evolutionary reasons and is NOT something that makes you “better than them”. Historically, men evolved to be direct because there was less at risk for doing so. Specifically, a strong, confident Alpha Male is typically direct, rather than being timid. Being timid conveys fearfulness, fear of a negative outcome – which signals to her that you are not a leader and not one who would be able to protect her and her offspring!
Women on the other hand evolved in an environment where being direct with a man risked invoking his wrath, which could have terrible consequences for her.
It’s also extremely important to her to choose a good mate because of the lasting consequences of those choices.
Whereas men are often completely oblivious to those things.
If you have good game, you are able to read a woman’s signals well.
She WILL LET YOU KNOW whether she is interested or not. But much of this communication happens in her language – not yours. Women communicate only partly through the literal meaning of words, but more importantly through the emotions behind them, through eye contact, through body language, through touch.
And there you are, trying to “mansplain” things to her.
Mansplaining might make perfect sense to you, but to her all it signals is that you just don’t get it – and this is an endless source of frustration to women.
These men either 1) keep on pursuing when she has already conveyed disinterest, which moves the man closer to being labeled as creepy or at best lacking in options, which shows her he is not a good choice because where are all the other girls?
Or, 2) they don’t read when she IS interested and don’t move things forward – which signals to her that he is unconfident, unskilled and not in touch with her.
If she says “I owe you a massage, take your shirt off” (this happened to me last week) you can be fairly confident this is a VERY strong hint that she wants something intimate to happen (and yes it did happen!)
• Is she “instaresponding” to your messages?
• Is she asking questions (especially that include the word “you”) that either have a “logistical flavour” i.e. “what are you up to this weekend?” or seem to be “giving you the mic” i.e. seems like she just wants to listen to you talk, take the lead and steer the conversation in an intimate direction.
• Does she dress up “extra” and make more effort to look nice when you are around?
• Is she “arranging things” so that it’s just you and her together in a scenario conducive to intimacy?
• Is she giving “reasons” why it’s ok for her to touch you? (“I could give you a massage because I don’t have nails right now”)
• Did she leave stuff at your house “accidentally” that she will need to come back and collect at some point?
• Did she say “I haven’t seen this movie, is this good?” when she saw the DVD at your place?
Now of course, all of these MIGHT be coincidental! But they probably aren’t – and the more of them there are, the more likely it is that she wants you. Note also the eye contact, the body language “tells” and the vibe she is giving you.
The converse is also true: Is she saying “Got to go”, avoiding seeing you, making excuses, flaking, leaving you on read, looking restless or uncomfortable? Take note!
Recognizing all of these things is one aspect of GAME. Being able to read her signals and act accordingly makes things better for her as well as for you. If only those guys she isn’t interested in would leave her alone.
She wants a man who gets it. A man who “knows how to drive”…
Other aspects of game:
Logistics / preparedness
Learning female anatomy (for example do you know where the U-spot is? She probably doesn’t either. She has more erogenous zones than she has probably discovered and this is a fact!)
Learning how to touch her, when to touch her and when not to.
“Mouthpiece” – conversational skill, comedy, improv and “having the chat”
Erotic storytelling / sexy chat
Being FUN, charismatic and in flow state
Time management
Non-neediness
Being a Masterful Lover
These are all game skills that are super valuable, have ZERO to do with manipulating ANYONE and are things she WANTS you to know.
Hope you can now see that game is real and necessary – and especially, that guys who think “looks are everything” have clearly not had any real success with women.
