by CONTENTS:
Introduction
Logistic 1: The Basics
Logistic 2: The Pad
Logistic 3: Transportation
Logistic 4: The Look
Logistic 5: The Catch Card
Summary And Notes
“I wrote a book about it – The Setup – you put in the effort and the time to create an environment that’s conducive to get what you want” – Dan Bilzerian
Introduction
Logistics, put simply, is the art and science of having your shit together – which enables a smooth flow when it comes to your dating life.
Logistics are really the #1 problem in most people’s lives. Most people, in fact, are hampered in their social life on a regular basis… by logistical obstacles – such as poverty, poor health, the grind or any other awkward BS that has not been handled and thus gets in the way.
A huge number of the problems that people have in the dating game can in fact be traced back to poor logistics – and this is an interesting point because it is less often discussed than other “game issues” such as what your opening line is going to be (far less important!) If you have your logistics handled, then other areas flow more easily and more effortlessly and your social life can flourish. It’s all in the preparation.
If you are genuinely interested in having a great “single person lifestyle”, then give this tutorial serious consideration. Having all these basics handled gives you huge opportunities to enjoy yourself – and having a great lifestyle with options will increase your overall charm, confidence and quality of life.
And you will be amazed how much easier pulling becomes when there are no bumps in the road.
As Rosebudd said… “A Pimp has got to be ready to catch at all times.” We are of course not recommending that life path, but the same principle applies: Logistics means having things dialed in so that you are prepared and ready to meet someone.
Examples of poor logistics:
• Your pad being 55 miles out of town in the countryside.
• You have no totally private space to call your own.
• Your car is full of trash, bits of used chewing gum, the “service engine soon” light is on and you have no money for gas.
• You have 3 weeks worth of dirty laundry piled up in the corner of your room.
• You are sofa-surfing and sleeping on the sofa of your friends house – and you’ve been instructed to not bring anyone back after 8pm.
• You have a rotten, stinking cold and it’s the only weekend off you have in the next 6 months.
• You went out for the night in a car with a group of 5, it’s 2am, the club is kicking out and all the others want to go to another location, so you have no realistic option but to tag along (and say goodnight to the girl you were getting to know and wants you to take her home!)
• You have to be up in 3 hours to go to work.
• You are in town on your motorbike but you have no spare helmet with you.
• You haven’t slept in 2 days and are zoning out.
• The hot water tank at your flat is broken, or the electricity has gone out, or any other variation of cold / dark / damp.
• Anything else that could be considered a “bump in the road” or obstacle that obstructs the smooth flow of events and gets in the way.
You can pull with all these logistical hurdles (and in truth it is all a mental puzzle to be solved!) – but the point is you are making it unnecessarily hard for yourself – and your success rate will be massively diminished.
Can you see how in every case, the above examples of poor logistics are caused by poor organization and poor prior planning? Get your life in order first and THEN go out on the pull. Things will start to become easier. Other issues in your game can start to be seen for what they actually are, and then you can fix them.
It’s really a case of making all the moves in the right order – and most people (who don’t pull) skimp on the “boring steps” because some of them are difficult and painful.
Well, how badly do you want her? How badly do you want to be sexy? 😉
Here are the 5 steps, with detailed consideration given to step 2.
Logistic 1: The Basics
You should be healthy, in shape (ideally GREAT shape but decent shape is ok), independent, have an income and have your act together in general.
It’s an interesting point that many people attempt to date before they really are ready to. It’s understandable, but it’s just a plain fact that everything will go better when you have your shit together – so work extremely getting all your crap done and obstacles cleared out of the way. It just makes everything more smooth and the ride more enjoyable.
Handle any “life problems” that would interfere – i.e. don’t be broke, or caught up in any other problematic situation. Be drama-free. Be fit. Being in great shape is probably more important than ever these days, where people are inundated with more options than ever before. Don’t skimp on this! You should also have some actual free time and be what is known as “emotionally available”.
One more – important: Get tested. Being up to date with your STD testing is not only the respectful thing to do but sure does smooth the path when things are about to get sexual. Playing safely with new partners is of course advised but knowing for sure you are all good just makes life better all round, so get it handled.
Logistic 2: The Pad
If you have your own nice, private apartment close to the attract location, then it makes things easy. If you are asked “What are you up to?” (great sign!) by a person interested in getting to know you more intimately, it can go somewhere – because you can simply say “I’m going back to my place – it’s just a couple blocks away – to spin some records / have some tea and cake / have a drink / whatever, wanna come?”
Location is hugely important. If your pad is half a block from meet/attract locations, in town, near to where lots of people hang out, then you will have social and potentially romantic opportunities every single day. So not only do your overall numbers go up by virtue of the fact that you have more chances, but the psychology of knowing that you have more chances means that you are more relaxed and carefree, which improves your game still further. Pulling is hampered by living out in the wilds. Now don’t get me wrong, I love the countryside. But when it comes to social life, how many people are going to go all the way out there per year to visit you? About 3. And if you invite them back spontaneously, say after the nightclub, it’s suddenly a major commitment that they simply might not be prepared for, in addition to the “Where the hell are you taking me?” factor. Whereas if your pad is 50 yards away, the likelihood they will say yes is vastly increased. If they meet two nice people that night, one of whom lives one block away and is having an after-party, and the other lives 55 miles away in some unheard-of neck of the woods, then guess who gets the pull? The exception to this rule is if you have the kind of country residence where you can hold grand parties of sufficient calibre that people will be willing to travel in order to attend; but even so – unless you are Gatsby – you are unlikely to be able to get the crowd more than two or three times per year. (And remember… Gatsby didn’t pull!)
Once again, you can pull with any of these obstacles: I once had a girl fly 5,000 miles for a first date with me on her own dime. (I’d only met her a couple of times, socially, a few years before.)
But note what I said. Once. You are simply going to catch more apples if you stand under the tree. When I was in college, I spent the first year living at my parents, 10 miles away. No transport except the bus, the last bus was 9.45pm and then I had to walk another mile. I got the odd girl here and there. But as soon as I moved to town, I literally had girls in my bed every weekend. Being 18-19 and having my own place gave me a huge logistical advantage over most of my friends, who were still living with their parents. College girls very typically have a “short list” of guys they wouldn’t mind getting with – if he’s ‘hot enough’ she will do him lol – and I was the one with the pad where we could party all night with no problems and no cockblocks. They told their families they were staying at their girlfriends place, and I got the pull. Guy friends even used to show up at my house with groups of girls – not directly because they were trying to set me up but because mine was the cool place where they could stay up late after the bar drinking and smoking. On several occasions these girls ended up in my bed.
All of a sudden, I had a much more abundant dating life, and it was all down to the fact that I was where the action was.
Love the countryside? Work your ass off, get an in-town bachelor pad as well as a country spot and have the best of both worlds. If you are just in town for a long weekend, get a hotel suite or an Airbnb “whole apartment” for the weekend. No excuses! 😉 If you want to pull you have to respect the game. The major pickup “gurus” generally recommend moving to a major city if you want results. It just increases your options massively.
Now on to your pad itself: Your pad should be the kind of place that people would enjoy chilling at, even if they were not sexually interested in you – simply because it’s a dope place to hang out. When mixed sets (guys and girls) or groups of girls (not just groups of bros, who you should absolutely say no to) are texting you saying “can we hang at your place after the club” – you know you’ve got it right.
Having a bit of an after-hours scene at your place can be pretty dope but you do have to have tight door control. No “sausage fest” vibes. The ratio of guys to girls should never go above 1-to-1 – if it does, girls will start leaving and the whole thing is ruined. The only thing you can do at that point is pull a few girls into your room to “get away from the sausage fest”, which they will agree to if they are into you and then it’s fun times. Lock the door.
Note, your pad does NOT need to be a millionaire’s mansion. In fact it is better for pulling if it is NOT, because that would actually change the tone of the interaction in a way that is not desirable. Gatsby didn’t pull! Remember this! He simped, and he flustered, and he crashed and burned super hard. His displays of willingness to move heaven and earth for his girl gave her massive validation while also signaling that he didn’t think he was really good enough for her, and then she want back to her dominant husband despite his selfishness. Interesting…
It’s super important to remember this. Your money should be used to create a good life for yourself and to create opportunities for fun, not to try to impress people. Your pad just needs to be up together and conducive to fun. That’s all. Don’t trick off your paper – and don’t spend your entire adult life working, only to finally get the mansion when you are 60 – and your competition is 30. She cares more about whether you are hot and available than whether you have a mansion!
Your pad should be clean, uncluttered, comfortable, tidy and at least modestly stylish. If someone is “weird” it is usually reflected in their home environment – their home is weird too! It’s a good idea to have your rooms organized according to their primary purpose. In other words, don’t have anything in the bedroom that is unrelated to relaxation, pleasure, sleep and sex. If you have a home office, put it in a different room to your general living area – because offices are usually cluttered, and less harmonious / relaxing than a social area should be. An office is “mentally busy” and should be the one room you generally keep locked and private. What is in there is NONE of anyone else’s business unless they are a business associate! If you need ideas for ways to improve the style of your place, look on Pinterest or google images for inspiration.
Make sure your home is “chick friendly” – i.e. not “anti-social” or off-putting in any way. This is important. The way you keep your home says a lot about your standards in life. If your bathroom stinks it will likely be assumed that your balls stink too. So all traces of “gross” bachelor habits – pubes in the bathtub, garbage can overflowing, dirty socks on the bedroom floor, dirty dishes in the sink etc – should be gone. Spruce up that nest, son! You should care about the quality of the experience of someone who is visiting your home.
Think also about the “flow” of when a visitor arrives at your home. Literally rehearse it and iron out the bumps. Do you want them to have to squeeze through a room piled full of boxes and junk, through various obstacles, to a place where there is nowhere to sit? No. The front door opens. The first room is generally a hallway. Uncluttered. Pleasing to the eye. Welcoming. A place for coats, shoes and hats, should those need to come off. From there, the adjacent room you invite your guests to should be a pleasant place to relax – and ideally somewhere that conversation can be maintained while you prepare a drink or whatever. If the living room is disconnected from the kitchen and you would be required to leave your guests in the living room while you bustle around in the kitchen – not terrible, but not super ideal. Do what you can to have things prepared before they arrive, so that the disconnect is minimized and you can ‘reappear in a flash’ with the drinks. Leading someone through to the kitchen to get a drink is acceptable, then to a comfortable room. And then ideally, if you are entertaining a lady – the comfortable living room is only one room away from the bedroom. Leave the door ajar and let her scope it out. 😉 A ‘guided tour’ can also be a nice touch and makes someone feel safer (no gimp tied up in the next door room lol).
Always over-deliver on promises. First of all, actually have what you say that you have. If you offer cake when inviting someone back, but have nothing but a couple of moldy old carrots in the fridge, then you just caused trust to crash through the floor, rather than grow. However strive to have MORE than what you initially offered – so that people are pleasantly surprised. So if you offer tea, cake and records – then also have cool lighting, a gorgeous sofa to lounge on, a dope selection of DVDs and a widescreen TV, etc etc.
Create an experience! You don’t have to go crazy, but make it pleasing. Having house guests is an art form and a grand tradition!
You should be able to bust out some snacks, drinks or even make dinner at the drop of a dime. Because she’s going to stick around for a while, right? 😉 Maybe, maybe not – but options are good.
Your bathroom should have a stack of nice, clean, fluffy towels. In general, if there is one room in the house that should be spotless, it should be the bathroom. If you can’t bear to do it yourself, just hire someone to do a deep clean. And if you can’t afford that, you ain’t pimpin’ son, and have other work to do so get on it NOW.
Other cool and conducive things to have in the place:
• Massage table. Just off to the side somewhere. If she says “ooh you have a massage table” then game on.
• DJ setup / good quality sound system for an “instant party”.
• Cool lighting. Philips Hue lighting system – the multicolored bulbs – are totally awesome. Being able to boss the lighting into some cool shades at the touch of a button; it’s way cool. Have a supply of candles also, as well as some safe candle holders. Learn how to use candles safely so that you don’t accidentally set things on fire!
• Video projector or big screen TV.
• Several extra cushions and fluffy throws, for those impromptu movie night moments / extra guests.
• Assorted drinks and snacks.
• “Outdoor chill zone” for those summer sessions. This could include barbecue area, swimming pool, hot tub, loggia / gazebo, covered porch, rooftop garden, etc…
• A playlist of cool tunes lined up so that you don’t have to be messing around with that stuff endlessly, or have to get up every 5 minutes to mess with the stereo.
NOTE – do all this in a way that you enjoy, first and foremost. (If you are trying too hard to impress someone, it does not impress them – Gatsby, you fool! – and it signals that YOU don’t think you are good enough, which tells her that SHE should think the same!) Most of all, have FUN when you are pimpin’ out your nest – and create the kind of pad that makes you feel good and smile to yourself when you walk in. After all, you are the one who is going to be hanging out there more than anyone else! 😉
Generally speaking, if it looks as though you have a thriving social life, your social life is more likely to thrive. If your place screams no girls ever come round here… they probably won’t.
Movies generally provide a “plausible reason” for someone to hang around for a while. Have a selection there. I like DVDs because they are visible. If they are out on the table, someone can indicate interest obliquely by saying “Ooh I haven’t seen this!” Then it’s an easy matter to read the signs, say “wanna watch it?”, dim the lights, get out the fluffy blankets, cosy up on the sofa and allow the magic to happen.
Your bedroom should also have essentials such as condoms, lube, box of tissues somewhere discreet but close to hand. If the panties are just about to come off and you suddenly think “crap, I didn’t get condoms”… then you just ruined the moment. It’s not that she will suddenly not like you, but she wants to have a magic carpet ride and she loves the guy who can create a great experience.
A variation on the “cool pad” that I have seen involves having a tour bus or RV for festivals and events. This kind of “party zone” is invariably popular and a great way to have summer adventures. If you have a dope bus at events… then it’s probably going to fill up with girls. Ask me how I know… things can get wild, for some strange reason party buses / limos etc seem to bring out something xxtra…
Put up a big canopy between two RVs, couple sofas and and a couple of high quality speakers and now you really have a vibe. Add a mirrorball, stripper pole, DJ equipment, some cool lights and some drinks and you are really flyin’. Secret weapon tip? This is almost evil… have a big full length mirror and lean it up against the bus. Nobody else does this and especially at festivals, the ladies need a mirror! So they will stop and fix themselves up as they come by, maybe even making a point of coming past (plausible deniability too if they like you!) At the very least, you will have “improved the view” in your camp 😉 and it sure is fun to watch them preen and pose. Bust out the blender, make a few rounds of daiquiris and it’s all happening. Suddenly there will be more girls around, which generally leads to there being even more girls around – so long as everything else is cool of course. Once again, the cooler your scene, the more door control you are going to need. But whatever type of pad you have, a full length mirror is a plus point which also conveys self esteem. ps. If the RV has a nice shower, you will be even more popular – and nothing beats that ‘babe fresh out of the shower’ vibe does it? 🙂
Logistic 3: Transportation
Now depending on where you are in the world, this may mean different things. In the USA for example, it almost invariably means car. Even in cities such as LA, getting around without a car is difficult and cumbersome. If you are out in Tumbleweed USA, it can be almost impossible. In European cities, you may be just fine without a car, depending on public transport. London for example is just fine with an Oyster card that covers buses and tube. If you are out on the pull with your car, make sure it is clean, comfortable, doesn’t stink and any issues are taken care of. Keep a cosy blanket in the back.
Logistic 4: The Look
Look really good, be sharp dressed, clean, well groomed and “100% ready to hit the town”. For a full tutorial check out our LooksMaxing Tutorial – How To Be The Hot Guy That Women Notice.
Logistic 5: The Catch Card
FAR more important than people realize – a “catch card” (also known in the old days as a calling card) is an absolute essential of the game.
A catch card is similar to a business card, only it does not contain any business information. You are simply giving someone a way to reach you.
It should be small-ish (small means it can be handed to her more discreetly if she is making eyes at you but surrounded by her cockblocking friends or boring BF). It should have a name and a phone number, with a moderately stylish presentation (don’t go overboard) – that’s it. It’s purely for social purposes. You don’t want to give a business card to a lady you are attracted to, because that leaves some vagueness as to whether your intentions were professional or social. Name. Phone number. Possibly your Whatsapp or Telegram info. Touch of style. That’s all it is, but it is a classy little asset to your overall demeanour and a pickup essential. Most men don’t have one and they have absolutely no clue about this, so it sets you apart immediately. Check out James Bond giving his catch card. This is how it’s done.
Now that’s what a catch card is, but why is it so valuable? I want to break this down in detail.
Asking for a number can be awkward – especially for the person being asked. If this person is not into it or simply nervous about a stranger having their number, they are required to make an excuse, give it reluctantly, or even give a fake number. The whole thing is uncomfortable and puts them under pressure. They might have a boyfriend. You might call when they are doing x,y or z.
This also leads to flaking and your time being wasted; you get the phone number and then they don’t pick up, or it is a fake number.
Whereas when you give her your catch card, she can accept it without awkwardness because it puts her under no pressure at all – and if she is not into you, she simply will not call. Whereas if you DO get a text from her, you know that there is some genuine interest in actually getting to know you – and you can immediately proceed to making arrangements to meet up.
The other issue here is that women’s sexual interest waxes and wanes like the phases of the moon. Literally. During that 28 day cycle she will quite probably have both “I need sex” days and “get away from me” days. When she pops up, its the perfect time to set something spontaneous up because that’s when she’s feeling it.
The catch card sets the perfect frame. It establishes you are not chasing, which is highly desirable – and saves you from wasting time and opportunities because you were waiting for her to get back to you; If you are the one calling, you might find yourself in a situation where you did not make other plans because you texted “girl A” and are now in a holding pattern waiting for someone to respond who has no intention of responding (horrible, don’t do that!) Whereas with the catch card, if she is available and interested, she can pop up and if she does not, you can get right on with your life with zero time wasted – thus enabling you to spend more time in self-improvement, which increases your chances even further! She will also actually admire you more because you are “on a mission” and not hanging around waiting for her. It’s perfect in every way.
Giving your card is totally non-threatening and a perfect way to screen for actual interest. It also acts as both a reward and a filter: You only give the catch card to girls you are interested in, and nobody else gets your details so you are not getting your phone blown up by randoms. If a conversation with someone has gone well, but there is no opportunity for an “instant date”, you are out of time, or they might be about to bounce, simply say as you hand them the card “text me” / “text me later” / “text me when you are free and we will go and have coffee / meet for a drink” etc. So easy!
And if she beats you to it, counter by giving yours back. And then, get on with your life. Let her message you if she desires it, otherwise move right on.
You just saved yourself a whole bunch of time chasing someone who wasn’t into you, time that can be spent finding someone that IS into you. And you gave her an opportunity, with the freedom to either take it or not.
It also makes approaching easier. And your socially-adjusted coolness will score you points too. She will get curious about you and you will be surprised how many of them do actually pop up… The catch card is one of the best game elements there is, believe me.
Summary And Notes
Logistics FIRST, fun second. ALWAYS. You should fix ALL this stuff BEFORE you go out and hit up your favorite spot in town (or the online dating sites). It takes work, effort, focus and commitment – that’s all. Note how when it is all handled you will have increased confidence and your mind will be clearer as a result. You will be in control and won’t have any of these worries lurking in the back of your mind, and so you will be able to act without hesitation – because you are now a smooth operator who has their act together on fundamental levels. If you have a spark with someone and they are into you, you can move things forward and enjoy the ride. Congratulations!
Note how none of this stuff is manipulative. You are simply facilitating a great social life and making it easy for good things to happen – and if someone likes you, they will appreciate that you made the effort to ensure that there were not all these absurd obstacles involved in getting close to you. Attentiveness to a lady’s pleasure should happen on all levels and honestly the more you consider it and take action, the better things will be.
It’s not rocket science to get all this together, but maintaining your own successful independent lifestyle in this manner typically involves some real effort – as well as time management. So get cracking because life is short and you don’t want to be looking back in 10 years thinking “if only”. Most of the tips in this guide were drawn from actual true-story experiences where logistical hiccups prevented “the pull from going down”. If you are young and reading this, you are a lucky little fucker and I hate you 😉 I cannot even tell you how much I wish I had had this knowledge when I was 20. NOTHING like this existed in my day, NOBODY was teaching it and I learned it by making ALL of the screw-ups… and then some.
And every day that you do NOT have this together, is a day lost to history. If you don’t fix it, you’ve no-one but yourself to blame… which leads to another point: Don’t over-obsess and don’t use this as an excuse not to go out. If you spend all your time at home alone making your flat look perfect, you won’t ever go out and meet anyone – which is after all the goal of this. Keep it all in balance.
Final note – if there is anyone in your life who is preventing you from getting all this together, and is an obstacle to you living the kind of fulfilled life that you envision… it might be time to move on. You should be in any romantic relationship out of choice, not because of of a perceived lack of options. And if you have friends or a living scenario that is cockblocking you, it might be time to cut loose and make a clean start.
