“Everything is judged by its appearance: what is unseen counts for nothing. Never let yourself get lost in the crowd, then, or buried in oblivion. Stand out. Be conspicuous, at all cost. Make yourself a magnet of attention by appearing larger, more colorful, more mysterious than the bland and timid masses.”. – The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
“I’ve fucked up many times in my life, but my regrets are not from the things that I failed at, but the things I didn’t try. People been telling me my whole life what to do, & I never really listened to any of them, think it turned out ok”. – Dan Bilzerian
Introduction: The Attributes Of The Successful Male
Those who think that looks are everything need to take their heads out of their asses and do a serious study of some of the world’s most accomplished (if you can call it that) playboys, who have used and continue to use STATUS to full effect in order to bed hundreds or even thousands of women.
Note – I am not saying be a player. I’m just here showing you the realities of life and (mainly) rescuing you from the highly warped, incorrect and utterly absurd “Black Pill” ideology.
Black pill beliefs (specifically, the belief that “looks are everything, nothing else matters”) are the ultimate fast track to inceldom and are held most vociferously by those who are getting zero results.
You should never, ever take advice from those who get zero results…
Hopefully by now, if you have been paying attention to King’s Game, you’ll know that there are certain fundamental male attributes that are attraction triggers to women:
Looks (including the appearance of strength, good genetics, vitality, grooming, style)
Wealth (including the ability to access resources / “successful hunter”)
Status (highly skilled, admired by men, preselected by other women)
Game (charisma, words, reading her signals, understanding of female psychology, good at touch, sexual skill, emotional connection, handling of logistics, navigating cockblocks, etc)
I’ve likened these four “attributes of the successful male” to the four suits in the pack of cards. It’s a very good match.
But it’s amazing how everyone argues over which of these of these suits is “trumps” – the suit that carries more “power” than the others.
In truth, the ultimate hand is the “no trumps hand” – which means having strong cards in all four suits.
But a strong enough hand in any of the suits can win the trick… you really can be the King of Diamonds, King of Hearts, King of Clubs or King of Spades… and get the girl! It’s my wish people would understand this – and it forms the central philosophy of this website.
If I had to pick a trump, however, status would be a contender for sure.
Status and game are in general underrated by guys who have not had much success with women. Looks and money are typically also overrated by them and regarded as being far more important than they actually are. Blaming these gives them a convenient excuse as to why they aren’t getting any.
Dan The Man
Let’s back all of this up with an example: Dan Bilzerian.
Arguably one of THE modern Grand Masters of status game – Dan is a ‘celebrity playboy’ who is most famous for being surrounded by beautiful women at all times, to an absurd level.
Dan has deliberately played “status game”, masterminding situations that gave him massive status.
He ALWAYS utilized this perception of status to give himself odds that were “like shooting fish in a barrel”.
He always made sure he was surrounded by women when being seen in public. So long as there were “too many women”, it was all good.
I don’t think he was particularly “good looking”, sorry bro. And he’s not tall, with celebrity sites pegging him at 5’8½”.
But despite not being super good looking, he was “looking good”.
Note the difference and this is important: You don’t have to be good looking to be looking good. Dan made the best of himself and he created a signature appearance that stands out strongly. He worked out hard, got broad and shredded, has ULTRA white teeth in all his pics, uses the beard to make his jawline look bigger and carries himself like a sort of “caveman boss”, I think using steroids for hypertrophy though which is NOT good for your long term health.
This carefully curated appearance is ‘dialed in’ and proves that you don’t have to be super genetically gifted to make the best of yourself and have it be ‘good enough’.
But his status game is the part that was super on point.
He made sure to be seen and photographed with large numbers of beautiful women around him and this itself caught huge amounts of attention. This carefully curated status also signaled to the other women “This guy must really have it going on”, causing them to wonder what all the fuss is about.
The fact that he was not a model also caused some confusion and sparked curiosity. It made people think “What is it about this guy?”. Strangely, this careful use of status triggers makes him seem more mysterious and this is very interesting because it demonstrates how status overrides our rational perception of how good someone looks.
Being surrounded by women also meant that he could ignore them without even trying to. If you are surrounded by a dozen women, then if you chat to one, you are basically ignoring the other eleven – who will then start competing for your attention. Becoming more and more bold and forward.
Dan deliberately exploited the ratio of males to females to multiply the value of his attention.
All of this led to more photo opportunities with more women, which made him look even better on his instagram and just caused the whole thing to spiral like crazy.
Net result, 31 million followers and ENDLESS women. He claimed a bodycount of over 1,000 and that was a few years ago.
Note how if you scroll his instagram, nearly all of the pictures show him with one or more good looking scantily-clad women.
Typically him and about half a dozen models, sometimes even a dozen or more.
That’s 100% deliberate. This is a player strategy that is being deliberately used in order to boost his STATUS. Read his book “The Setup”. He literally advises men to ALWAYS have the women to men around them ratio above 1 to 1.
Status can be summarized simply:
Men want to be him, women want to be with him.
Remember also that this is primal. It’s not about who is the “best guy on paper”. It’s about understanding primal instincts and triggering them effectively.
Yes, it’s dumb. But despite being as dumb as bonobos and chimps in the jungle (or perhaps BECAUSE it’s as dumb as bonobos and chimps in the jungle!!)… it works!
What’s interesting is that Dan was completely Machiavellian about all of this. He completely gamed the system – like the poker player he was – and maximized his odds of winning. He admits candidly to all of this in his book “The Setup” and in interviews.
He doesn’t even try to hide it! Look at the caption here:
“485 girls and 37 dudes, I know how to throw a motherfuckin party”.
The interesting thing is that even if everyone KNOWS it’s fake, it still works. Like makeup – we know damn well that it’s fake, that she “doesn’t really look that good” but it still triggers our primal instincts…
Most of our evolutionary history was “pre civilization”. Most of the “wiring under the board” of who we are, is primal. The civilized stuff; the logical stuff about what is good and proper – appeals to our “surface mind”, but once we have a more accurate perspective on human nature, we can see what truly drives us.
Do you understand now?
Court Attention At All Costs
Perhaps the biggest factor that separates Bilzerian from the rest is that he is absolutely unafraid to stand out, to be noticed, to risk ridicule, mockery, scorn and to be a possible target for whatever anyone wants to throw at him. This once again is a primal status trigger.
These ostentatious types of appearance, being perfectly honest, are generally kinda dumb. But it stands out – and standing out is what matters. Explained perfectly here by Mystery:
We can now see that none of what Bilzerian did was accidental. He has followed perfectly “The Sixth Law” from the 48 Laws Of Power. Quoting once again from the book, we can see how well this fits:
“Draw attention to yourself by creating an unforgettable, even controversial image. Court scandal. Do anything to make yourself seem larger than life and shine more brightly than those around you. Make no distinction between kinds of attention — notoriety of any sort will bring you power. Better to be slandered and attacked than ignored.”
– and one more:
“Burning more brightly than those around you is a skill that no one is born with. You have to learn to attract attention, “as surely as the lodestone attracts iron. At the start of your career, you must attach your name and reputation to a quality, an image, that sets you apart from other people. This image can be something like a characteristic style of dress, or a personality quirk that amuses people and gets talked about. Once the image is established, you have an appearance, a place in the sky for your star.”
What’s most interesting about this is that in society, we are taught NOT to be “attention seekers”. It’s regarded as gauche, low class, inferior behavior. From a young age, we are told that “the meek shall inherit the earth” and that drawing attention to yourself is fundamentally unvirtous “loser behavior”.
Yet you have to ask yourself, who is having a more enjoyable life? Dan Bilzerian, or the legions of grey men who are making a point of not standing out, and – like chickens – being sure to peck at anyone who does.
Can you also now see that we’ve been programmed – conditioned to believe things that are not actually in our best interests, in order to dumb us down and take away our power?
The vast majority of men are absolutely timid and afraid to stand out. Safer just to fit in, conform, hide, be invisible. You don’t want to be labeled a jerk, a narcissist, a player! Why risk it?
However this signals to women – especially to the most primal part of them – that you aren’t worth their attention either. Whereas being unafraid to be noticed and in fact deliberately courting as much attention as possible, confers huge “alpha status” on a man.
Bilzerian is 100% comfortable in his own skin being a fuckboy. He doesn’t care at all that everyone knows. This gives him even more “alpha status” because he shows himself to be completely unafraid of other people’s opinions and gives zero fucks what anyone thinks.
“Most people are too afraid of judgement to own who they are and accept the controversy.” – Dan Bilzerian
Once you look into the psychology behind all this, you can see clearly that all of this has been done with absolute deliberation – and to tremendous effect.
There are no accidents in this game. I remember years ago when I first saw Dan Bilzerian and I thought “Really, this guy?” I was surprised by how non-good-looking he really was. Now of course it all makes sense.
Actions Speak Louder
Another thing that’s interesting is that this completely proves beyond any doubt that women are absolutely not interested in having “one man each”.
They also all know that he is a “fuckboy”. He doesn’t try to hide that either!
But they would rather share a “top tier” (according to primal characteristics) man than have an average, bland, conformist man all to themselves.
Looking at his Instagram, this fact is absolutely and utterly undeniable!
These ladies EXPECT that they are going to have to share him. He makes absolutely no attempt to hide the fact that he is probably sleeping with numerous of these women.
It’s fascinating. On paper, he’s a terrible choice of boyfriend. He’s literally going to cheat on them – he’s a cad, a player, selfish, probably a narcissist.
But if you ever needed any proof that “What women say they want” and “What their actions tell you” are different things, here it is.
Dan has such exceptionally high status that many of these women are clearly just “chasing the clout” of being seen and photographed with him. You can tell when they gaze at the camera rather than at him, where their interest really lies. This is always a very telling sign. If a woman can’t take her eyes off her man, even when the camera is flashing, it shows she is massively into him.
Again, I don’t think he cares; he just “holds court” and uses the whole thing to his advantage. Whether they have sex with him because they love him or because they are competing with the other girls, probably doesn’t matter that much to him.
Another strange thing: He’s exactly the archetype of the kind of guy women complain about the most. And yet, here they all are, vying for his attention in this highly primal environment. Quite strange, isn’t it…
Status Has Huge Power
Dan is one of the true masters of status game in the modern time. But he’s absolutely not the only one.
For historical examples of masters of status, check out Hugh Hefner, Peter Stringfellow, Franz Liszt and various Kings, Sheiks and Sultans of history.
Scrolling Dan’s Instagram, a further thing that’s interesting is just how ham it all is. It’s unsophisticated and rather basic, cringe even. If you look at it objectively, it’s easy to think he’s a bit of a tool. He even writes “What am I doing with my life?” as one of the photo captions.
It doesn’t matter, it still works. He’s mastered the “attention economy”.
Humans still operate from their primal instincts, not from the veneer of what society tells them they ought to be.
Another interesting observation is that Bilzerian specifically advises men not to chase women. He recommends creating scenarios where the women are the ones doing the chasing. This is for multiple reasons, but most specifically, he reports that “the sex is better” when she feels as though she has “achieved something” rather than having been persuaded into it. It’s the perception of ultra high status, specifically, that gets them to do the chasing.
He’s also a Successful Risk Taker and the instagram is carefully curated in order to reflect that at all times. Most of the pics feature him doing some type of adventurous activity, typically in an exotic location. Poker, diving, yachts, jets, shooting, skiing, fast cars, tanks, luxury lifestyle and of course babes all over the place.
We see all of this refers back to the attraction triggers originally delineated by Mystery (who was ahead of his time and has been proven correct again and again):
• Preselected by other women
• Leader of men (not trying to emulate other guys, but they are trying – and failing – to be like him or have what he has)
• Successful risk taker (poker champion, all round DGAF attitude)
• Conveys emotions rather than hiding them (doesn’t hide who he is, is unreservedly expressive and is fully “out with it”)
The above four are a perfect summary of the qualities of the status card.
Dan has it on lock. He knows that when it comes to women attention is currency; he has mastered how to maximize the use of his attention and make it seem super valuable. Giving it and taking it away to maximum effect. The more surrounded by women he is and the higher his clout, the more valuable his attention becomes and the further they are willing to go to chase it.
One thing these women have in common is that they crave attention. Not just his, but the “greater attention” they will get from being seen with him, which could potentially lead to thousands of new followers of their own.
He also knows how to let situations speak volumes. You never see him trying to “prove his worth” to these girls with words. Ever. Unlike the guys in the comments. He literally lets the photos do the talking. When you are surrounded by hotties and you are the only guy in the pic, you don’t need to announce that you get girls.
This is what the guys in her inbox and in her comments are doing wrong. They are trying to “qualify themselves” – prove themselves worthy and good enough for her – which instantly signals low status… and they’re done.